Opinions that matter

The other day, I came across this post on Twitter:

This short video contains a piece of advice that is truly thought-provoking. Whose opinions really matter to you? The idea of making a list is brand new to me. I have never considered an initiative like this, and now I see great value in it.

There’s always a small group of people you trust. Whenever you are working on new ideas, you ask them what they think, and you find their feedback useful. You respect them, and they respect you. There’s a reason why their opinions matter.

In a digital world, where anyone can criticize your work mercilessly, you have to learn who to listen to. Not all opinions matter. It’s unfair to let trolls influence your every move and your every thought.

Those whom you trust are the ones that can offer you solid comments. You know you can only expect honesty from them. Listen to them and nurture meaningful conversations.

If you were to start that list right now, how many names would there be on it?

First drafts are for your eyes only

For some reason, the other day I woke up with this song playing in my head:

This song reminds me of my childhood. My parents tuned in the radio quiet often, and this song would be playing. Back then, I didn’t pay attention to the lyrics, but now I can really feel it has a powerful message.

Sing a song (…) don’t worry if it’s not good enough for anyone else to hear. Just sing. Sing a song.

I feel the same thing happens when writing. You compose a story, and then you wonder if it’s good enough. However, the first draft is for your eyes only. Nobody else is reading it or judging you. All you need to do is write and edit later on.

As long as it all comes from the heart, the next improvements will follow. That’s what the song says to me. What does it say to you?

Confronting Fears: What if your loved ones disapprove the stories you tell through your art?

Your art is personal and intimate. It feels safe to keep it for your eyes only.

However, the time comes when your work urges to reach the public light. How will others receive it?

What will your family and loved ones think about your creations? What if they are your harshest judges?

It’s natural to have these questions in your head. It’s natural to be scared of reactions from people who know you so well. Famous artists, at some point, went through the same situation. Dave Gahan, lead singer of Depeche mode, came to mind. As the band gained more popularity in the 80s, Dave didn’t want his mom to see him on stage singing and dancing. One day, Mrs. Gahan went to a concert and saw his act. She seemed to have mixed feelings.

Whether she liked it or not, that was Dave being himself. I guess they made peace regardless of any confrontations. His dancing style didn’t change over the years. Here’s proof.

So, the art you create might not delight your family or loved ones, and that’s okay. They may not be your audience, but you will find it. There’s always public for anything and everything. Your priority as a creator is producing quality work and improve yourself.

Meet your own expectations and take pride in your accomplishments. Your family and friends will always love you for who you are.

Working one day at a time, and writing one word at a time

Some people are able to write 10,000 words a day. I’ve always thought that’s impressive, and I’m really happy they can reach a high word count. At the same time, I also think it’s fair to say that this goal is not for everyone. That’s okay.

Each writer sets different standards and, therefore, different goals.

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Somebody’s dream: that’s how everything starts

Today I want to share a few things that have been on my mind lately.

The clothes you are wearing, the products you consume were once somebody’s dream. That dream came true through the use you give them.

The notebooks or journals you write on are the result of somebody’s effort to design them and put them in stores. It was their dream that you would buy them.

The books you read and re-read existed in a writer’s imagination first. The author dreamed to publish his/her work, and it reached you at some point.

Ordinary people started writing songs in their rooms or composing melodies in their garages with friends. Eventually, they became your favourite singers/bands. It was their dream to go on stage and perform for you.

You sit and write everyday to publish your book someday. You share pieces of yourself here and there to show your work. You don’t know what the result will be, but you have a dream, and it’s important to believe in it.

Life is made of dreams that can come true.

Why marketing is not [so] evil

I think of marketing and my writing life as a love-hate relationship. In my mind, marketing is all about hard sales and finding channels to keep generating profit.

After giving it some thought, I came to a realization: marketing is like maths. You can’t escape them. They’re always there. They’re part of your life, and you need them. Creative work is not the exception.

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